Are you having a hard time getting from the ‘now’ version of yourself to ‘the ideal’ version of yourself?
So was I for a very long time…until I finally learned to overcome these five habits.
1. Stop caring what other people think. Seriously stop it! Today! This very second, STOP! What other people think of you is none of your business. The space inside their head and the thoughts that dwell there is up to them. It is their own personal real estate and ninety-nine percent of the time their thoughts aren’t even about you anyway, they’re about themselves. So…stop wasting your precious time worrying about what they think and start worrying about how you can love, nurture and show up for them instead.
2. Excuses. Excuses. Excuses. I have a list a mile long. I really do. I have four amazingly wild and rambunctious children and here are some of my somewhat legit excuses:
* When am I supposed to find time to work on a business when I can’t even find time to pee? I literally have someone on my lap when I go to the bathroom. My youngest sweet thang thinks the world is falling apart if she can’t find me, even if I’m only gone for two seconds. If I can’t have two seconds, how am I going to find hours…?
* Growing a business could take a very long time. (The time is going to past regardless. I might as well have spent it working on a goal/dream).
* People are going to think my ideas are dumb. (And this could be true, refer back to habit #1).
* I need more of the green stuff to start a company —after all, everyone knows it takes money to make money, right?
* If I start a business, my children are going to be neglected, and I’m going to turn into a work-obsessed, horrible mother.
* I’m not smart enough.
* I don’t have enough skills.
As you can see, there are so many excuses that can scare us from attaining our goals. So, the next time a nasty excuse pops up, come at it with a solution instead of focusing on the problem.
When all excuses are pushed aside, the pathway to success opens up.
3. Neglecting our body. I believe our bodies are temples and the only vehicle with which we experience this mortal life.
Take five, or ten minutes to take a quick assessment of your overall health.
* How often do you eat fresh fruits and veggies?
* How much sleep are you getting?
* Do you spend too much time on television or the computer?
* How often do you exercise?
* How are you managing stress?
* Do you take time to meditate?
* How many chemicals are you taking into your body?
* Are you getting enough herbs/essential oils?
Your mind resides inside your body. If one’s not working properly the other is most likely not working properly. If you want to be clear-minded and focused, have positive feelings, and have robust amounts of energy. Make sure you are caring for yourself.
4. So afraid of making the wrong choice that we choose nothing. I think this is a common problem today. We have so many choices. More than ever before. We have more choices on what to wear, what to eat, where to go, and what to do with our lives. With so many choices thrown at us, it can get very confusing. I’ve seen this problem in people close to me. I see it with people getting older who don’t get married. They are so afraid of choosing Mr./Mrs. Wrong that they stay single despite their inner desire to be married and have a family. I see this in people pursuing college degrees. This is a problem when it comes to business. What if I don’t like working at so and so…and so many young adults are remaining unemployed.
Even if you make the wrong choice. Through the process of elimination, you’ll be one step closer to making the right one. Sometimes we learn more from our mistakes and wrong decisions then we do from our great choices. Just choose. The great thing about free will, you can always make a new decision later if you need to.
5. Sharing our dreams with the wrong people. Don’t get me wrong. It’s motivating to share an idea with a friend or a family member…especially when they get all excited and tell you your idea is absolutely brilliant, for sure a million-dollar idea. But what happens when you take that same great idea and give it to the wrong person. That one negative comment can demolish an idea before it even has time to grow into something amazing. Deep down I believe we all want to be successful and we want the success of others, but sometimes I think we aren’t always the best cheerleaders for our family members and peers. Be careful not to throw your pearls before swine…just saying!!
Comment below and let me know which one of these habits you are willing to let go of today?
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